Friday, November 25, 2011

My Choices and Not Even There

I, as most people, consider relationships to be sacred. Especially the relationships that I have chosen to have. You can't choose your family, so for the purposes of this post, they don't count in relationships. You kind of have to cherish them because they have put up with your crap for longer than anybody else.
I'm talking about the relationships one chooses to have.
For instance, I cannot stand how people treat their spouses nowadays.
My wife is as much a part of me as my left arm...and I chose her to be a part of me. Let me repeat, I chose her to be a part of me. It would be idiotic, even stupid for me to treat her as less than a part of me, as if she were me. What does it say about me if I cheat on her and call her every name in the book, as if she is a complete stranger?
What does it say about me if I betray my best friend and tell all of his deep dark secrets without thinking about how that will make him feel?

I was considering all of this when I wrote the story "Not Even There." How do best friends, who have never betrayed each other before, handle it when one betrays the other? It could have dire, life-altering, and unending consequences.

During this Thanksgiving holiday and the Holiday coming up, please be thankful for those you know, those you love, and those who bring out the best in you. They are the best part about you. Without them, you are're not even there.


  1. I like to think that if you haven't figured out the importance of loved ones by the time you get to middle age (like me!) I reckon you're never going to feel the light warm your face.

    If a problem shared is a problem halved, then a life shared is a love doubled.

    Keith :)

  2. I totally agree. It's so nice to hear a man speak of his wife this way. I'm lucky because my husband is like you, but there are so many who disrespect their spouses.

    I look forward to visiting your blog again.

  3. Keith- I'm right there with you. I have to say that relationships, especially marriage, make life a little easier.

    Laurie- Thanks for the compliment, but the compliments belong to my wife. She makes me a better person.

    Thank you both for your comments!

  4. Your wife is a lucky woman.

    Also the problem of betral does make for all kinds of conflict in stories. Lots of potential there. :)

  5. Love the potential in to types of conflict...outer conflict of betrayal and the inner conflict of loneliness. For me, they both play into much of my writing.

    I'll tell you a secret, if you promise not to tell anyone...I'm the lucky one. My wife is the best!

    Thanks for your comment! :)